Children from "fatherless" homes.....

So I have experience working with these special children.

1. I helped babysit for a single mom as a teenager.

2. I am married to a man who came out of a single parent home (his mother was later married).

Each single parent home is different from one another.  There is no way to determine if mental health and bad behavior of children from single parent homes are coordinated.  Rather the issue is "salvation."

There are single parent homes where the home is "motherless," but I am only going to address "fatherless" in this article.

I did not study social work in college.  However, I do know that if a person keeps giving "handouts" to a person who is consistently controlled by his or her lust and passions, he or she will not put the "self-control" sticker on automatically.  Hence, teen pregnancies and out-of-wedlock oops. Thankfully, people choose life instead of abortions in these situations.  Abortions would never fix any situation, even in cases of rape, except in the cases where the life(physical health only) of the mother is in danger.  People who "help" or work with single parents should NOT keep telling them to "go out on the town."  Rather, they need to point to the bible and show them what the bible says about various passions going "wild" and how the "lovers" are not really very good in the long-run.

In other words, if a single parent would like to be a -GOOD- single parent, she MUST wear the words "I Repented" on her clothing, day in and day out, else her children will follow in the pathway to destruction.

Home life of the single parent would probably involve more grandparent support than another home.  Though, I still believe in supportive people even in two-parent married households.  Depending upon the upbringing an character from the grandparents, would determine if the -Repented- individual single-parent would like to use their support as well.

If it doesn't feel like a good solid grandparent support is there, do seek support from a local church group.  There will be times where the child will not "behave" as you would like.  The children need to know whom is there to show them the "way to go" as far as good godly behavior is concerned, and that man is the person of Jesus.  Be wise, and choose a church group that is not "entertainment focused," but is "thy word" focused.

The home environment:
1. Ensure that it is simple and clean.

2. Keep ungodly entertainment out of the home.  Absolutely no video games with violence.  Only video games with intellectual challenge.

3. Keep video and tv (same with books an magazines) out of the home if at all possible.  Advertisements from unknown sources mislead children easily.

4. Keep ungodly friend influence away.  Do not allow them into the home especially if they like to "go out on the town" a lot.

5. Encourage active bible study and practice.  Do not be a coward about your faith.

6. Choose simple jobs and careers, so the single parent can stay close to the child as the child grows.  Even if a little govt' assistance is needed, that is ok, so long as it is not the final goal.  When the child is old enough to babysit others, then career advancement could take place to help support the home independently.

7. Help the child choose good friends.  Prefer "elderly" or "disabled" friends for your child, so the child can see weaknesses and needs to support in humanity.

8. Pray with and for your children regularly.  God can an does keep the children from evil, if we believe.

9. For a possible spouse of the single parent.  Do not assume that the worldly dating patterns will influence the children for good.  Do not assume that the "new dad" will be a better dad than the child's own biological or "heavenly dad."  All worldly patterns will be negative rather than positive in the child's life.

Ok, got the point?

Eventually, we hope the child chooses JESUS to help them overcome trials and errors of this life.

The "bad children" that exist in our society is NOT always because of "fatherlessness" as a whole, though it can be, it is because of the mother's lack of response to the gospel message.  It may simply be because of "fatihlessness."

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