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Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Before you meet him.....

Have you ever wondered why some women seem so picky and frightened or protective when it comes to men?  Well the answer is because a woman has a spirit and it need protection from all the delusional things that could come into her life.  Many women end up in relationships that are not godly or are put under pressure to remain in such relationships.  Other women were false godly women who were offered much blessings but they resisted the truth so they departed from the first love.  These things are most sensitive and blinding to young lovers who are under the age of thirty.  Older adults have grown out of spiritual blindness by the time they are thirty and above, as they can more easily approach biblical literature with full understanding, wisdom and experience.

No woman is going to be perfect.  No man is going to always follow a 'woman's rules' as far as decision making are concerned.

Before you meet that 'special man' look not to the outward appearance that he says he is Christian or attends Christian groups.  No this is DANGEROUS to spiritual reality.

1. Ask your self if you are purified by study of the word.  Study books that teach how to prepare before a marriage can help you sooooo much in the process.  (Preparing to be his helpmeet, by Debi Pearl, Before You meet Prince Charming by Sarah Miley)  Be content in God's word in case that one man never shows up!

2. Ask your self if you are gaining wisdom!  Are you studying the effects of WWII on the people?  Are you learning new ways to cook?  Are you learning to improve your speech?  Are you studying engineering?  Are you learning how to care for down-syndrome children?  Do not be afraid of secular knowledge.

3. Think about lifestyles or qualities you do NOT want in a man.  Are there certain movies or videos you would never watch that you know he may watch?  Are there certain books you would never admire that may cause political delusions?  Keep these things in mind.

4. Before he comes to your door or seeks to speak with friends or family whom are close and truly care for you, make sure to ask these questions about his behavior and choices.  Some of these men may have grown up knowing the bible!  Some of these men may have a' heart' for you but do not have true love or strength to raise you when you are old or in process of maternity!  Modesty can protect you from making the mistake of improper relationship.  Even loose baggy jeans can have a modest appearance, but it is best to dress feminine if you are serious about possibly starting a relationship.
-Ask if he is interested in gambling and when was the last time he gambled. 
-Ask when was the last time he used alcohol.
-Ask if he has any habits like smoking, marijuana or drug use.
-Ask if he has had sexual relationship before.
-Ask if he has looked at pornography.
-Ask if he has filed for divorce.
-Ask if he has had anger issues or gotten mad at anyone for any reason.  Ask the reason.
-Ask if he has cheated on tests in high school and post-secondary school.
-Ask if he has mental health problems.

*These issues show up in ANY race nation tribe or tongue.
*You may want to consider not allowing a man like this near you or your future home.  Some issues, such as pornography, cases can lead to pedophilia problems or terrible infidelity problems.  So beware, not all men who appear good on the outside are good on the inside!  Even men who claim to have repented or "changed" from these issues are not truly repentant!

5. Ask if his entertainment choices match your entertainment choices.
-What things does he put in front of his eyes: Movies, Pictures, Scenic Views, Clothing, Vehicles, Museums, Flags and Bumper Stickers so on and so forth.
-What things does he put into his ears: Music, Radio Stations, Internet Stations, Professional Advice, Learning, Nature Sounds, Relaxing sounds
-What types of things does he smell with his nose: Cooking, Foul smells, Clean linens, Flowers, Nature Smells, Farm smells, Smells from religious choices, campfire smells
-What types of things does he say with his mouth: Foreign Language, Foul language, Intelligent English vocabulary, Simple tones, Biblical language, Other religious talk, mechanical language, math and science language, colorful creative language, sin generating language, fearful of women relationship language(gay or fearful tones), angry tones, false judgment things
-What types of things does he do with his hands: Healing people, serving people, cleaning up messes, harvesting crops, cooking foods, playing a musical instrument, driving, building things, designing things, typing things, preserving things, dealing with nature etc etc.
-What types of things does he do with his mind: Books he reads, meditations, prayers for others, calculation ability, strength of education, religious book meditations

6. How does he approach his family members and perhaps friends?
-What does he do when he is interacting with family members who have problems from (number 4).
-Does he take advantage of family members?
-Does he listen deeply to family members who falsely judge you as a person?
-Does he follow entertainments that family members suggest that are concerns from (number 5)

*These things will vary based on culture and lifestyle.  If you find something negative that you yourself could not appreciate or approve of, make sure you know that before he knocks on your door.  Some of these men you may approve of speaking with in public or at a special gathering of some sort, but you would NOT actually want to marry such a man, or get to know such a man closely.

7. How does he spend his time: Religious services which he is eager to attend or forced to attend, Things he navigates in libraries and on internet, Does he follow a Sabbath, does he tinker and adjust things, Is he in bondage and self-seeking politically or culturally, is he resourceful or wasteful, does he spend some 'time' cleaning up after himself or others.....

8. Health care: Does he approve of natural or alternative healthcare?  Does he have enough income for health insurance or a social plan for health care coverage which would cover a non-working spouse? Has he been dependent on socialized medicine offered through gov't' services?  Is he a large family approving type or a small close attention to individual needs and talents type of man.

Be strong in these issues.  They do matter when it comes to your family, your heart and your future!   The more you ask, may cause a man who doesn't truly care to leave you alone.  The less you ask, makes you more vulnerable.  Yes, many women can and do end up loving men who do not love them back as they were not wise or old enough to understand these issues in the first place.  Love can and DOES cover a multitude of sins never-the-less.  Its just better to know what those sins and problems are before that man even meets you face to face.  Look at inward appearance first!

men too should ALSO apply these questions, though do not assume a wife will always be able to take care of your health care financially.

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Don't waste time reading -anti-biblical or anti-complimentary - stuff....

Its just makes the likes of life extra dull and un-extraordinary.

Every now and then I pop over to this website that seems to have found the "hope" for women that exists in progressive styles or feminist styles of christianity, and I'm like.  Well, what about the single women who are not attached to men or the widows who are not around their husband?  Where do they belong in the anti-complementary belief cult.

Reading all of the mumble jumble will be like chattering and chattering and chattering about how unusual a spinning top happens to be.  It has a blue color (represents men) and a red color (represents women).  If that top is never spun, you will never get to see how the colors combine.  So too with the bible.  It happens to mention men and women which have different and unique roles.

To the anti-complementarian belief structure.  You MUST believe that reading that bible or spinning that top will be damaging for spiritual health.  You must.

It is ridiculous.

Can't they find something better to discuss?

As a woman, yes, occasionally I LOVE STEM subjects at the college level and love to build things with hammer and nails.  That does not mean I believe in feminism as a solution to women's problems.  90% of the complaints are simply this.  ......my husband won't do the dishes for ME......  Rarely does such a website mention problems with women leaders in churches as spreading gossipy solutions.

The 10% issues are with actual abuse husbands or men.


Monday, August 1, 2016

Let not an evil Speaker be established. Should Christians Vote?

Every now and then on my facebook feed I read a story that says, "Vote for Donald Trump is the Christian thing to do."

Well, are these people who read the bible actually aware that he is speaking evil against innocent people?  He may say things in a generalized fashion as to include "all" in the same category.  Even bank and loan officers know that there are people with bad-credit and good-credit among a crowd of people.

Are people aware that Donald Trump has been known to fund Hillary Clinton campaign.

Yes, Hillary Clinton does not say positive things about Christians.  Particularly conservative Christian women are an intimidation to her goals and agendas.  She believes so highly of abortion even after 20 weeks and in healthy viable disabled children.  So she is not a worthy candidate.

So too, is Donald Trump insulting of minorities as he blindly doesn't consider his words and how it affects people.  Mexican minorities are not bad people in most cases.  However, the reasons some Christians are saying that the people who are Christian should vote for Donald Trump is because he is not afraid to look under the rug of where the origin of violence springs up.  He will say stuff that will get the right people intimidated, that need intimidation.

So both presidential candidates say evil things about innocent people.  Should we vote for "evil"?

Why are people encouraged by establishing people who speak nonsense and false things about others?  I don't know.  Why are people so unwise about biblical reasoning and topics?  I don't know.

Psa 140:11  Let not an evil speaker be established in the earth: evil shall hunt the violent man to overthrow him.

Libertarian candidates are not as popular, but at least it is a political party that "reasons" about the words people say and how it affects people and political views.  This party is all without the need to use govt' money to create more evil and wickedness in the earth (abortions, not checking terrorist capability of immigrants, educations that are anti-semetic and/or anti-biblical etc)

Here is a link that shows the people MUST NOT let evil rule in our leadership.

In general a Christian is neither in favor nor against voting.  BUT if a Christian is in favor of voting for "evil," the person really needs to favor the gift of REASON, as an ability to overcome evil in this world :

"1Pe 3:15  But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:"

"Heb 5:14  But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil."

"Act 18:14  And when Paul was now about to open his mouth, Gallio said unto the Jews, If it were a matter of wrong or wicked lewdness, O ye Jews, reason would that I should bear with you:"

So in essence a Christian never does wrong if he or she doesn't vote.  But if he is given the tools to vote, he or she should reason appropriately to determine the good vs. the evil.

The things of this world will pass away, so it is best not to fret concerning the coming days of evil in this world.

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