Pro 10:6 Blessings are upon the head of the just: but violence covereth the mouth of the wicked.
Pro 10:8 The wise in heart will receive commandments: but a prating fool shall fall.
Pro 10:11 The mouth of a righteous man is a well of life: but violence covereth the mouth of the wicked.
Pro 10:18 He that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a slander, is a fool.
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If you or a friend have read this book and do not consider lightly the effect of abuse, do not hesitate to get help immediately! Some abuse is easy to overcome (due to negligent human flaws, illnesses or other things and is simple errors in human behavior), some abuse needs godly men and women to over come, and some abuse needs professional services. If a wife is disabled (wheelchair, loss of limbs, loss of hearing or seeing, mental dependent etc etc) or simply will never be able to find a job, ensure her safety first and foremost! A terrible marriage is NOT worth loosing a loved one. Dependent Adult Abuse is not a Joke. If you have been defamed in your character because you simply couldn't "meet up" to some standard by a certain group that wanted to take advantage of your reputation, ability and skill, do not fear getting wisdom and resources to overcome the burden this places on you in your life. Defamation of character is a crime.
Here is a pretty basic article that explains that this ministry appeals to a sort of "family idolatry" or worship of "man" and not worship of the "son of man." Here is a basic article explaining the problems with the ministry.
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Here is a blog-post-link to evaluation of the ministry. The biggest problem with the ministry is it makes Patriarchy look like a fun way to practice "misogyny," which leads people down the way towards unrighteous living and living for SELF! A sensible woman WILL think of her sister's in Christ as more than just an "Instagram" model and her sisters in Christ come in more than one color skin tone and body height.
To begin with re-evaluation of the book written by Debi Pearl, "Created to Be His Helpmeet," one needs to consider the "goal" of this particular book. It is to make itself look like the scripture isn't necessary as a whole for the whole community of believers and that ONLY the man and the woman in a "one man and one woman marriage" are righteous and Holy before God. This in and of itself is a deception to the core. By knowledge of history both of persecution of the church and persecution of people who were never Christians to begin with (like indigenous cultures) and persecutions of people written in the scripture (Naboth was persecuted and murdered by a wicked one-man-one-woman couple Ahab and Jezabel), one knows that this type of angle is not the truth. As there are evil men crept in unaware who lead silly woman away from the TRUTH of the Gospel and the GOODNESS of the LAW of God. Consider the verses outlined above. All the verses point to the reality that the "mouth" of men can spew out false judgement that are not in conjunction with the truth. Anyone who has studied college statistics KNOWS this is the case. Many different angles and situations reveal the criminal of the situation. An abused woman in a marriage simply does not deserve to be abused EVEN if her husband has military status and PTSD. The results of such things can lead to the death of the innocent......both in the marriage and in some cases a mad-man takes over the body and kills members of a church group! (there was a recent church shooting in Texas!)
As a person who has worked in a nursing home and has seen the effects of violent men, I NEED to say something to the "lost" far-right community, before they end up needlessly suffering or creating suffering under the guise of false-Christian leadership. A type of leadership that has a poor exegesis of the scripture to make it look like Holiness comes ONLY in one way through a marriage built on violence, and not in the way as JESUS himself described (visiting and instructing the woman at the well with five husbands that HE is the water of life). I myself went to a liberal arts college and received a nice "A" in religion class. I also received an "A" in Hebrew language class, so I fit in "somewhere" among the more honorable students as a student of the scripture. This particular college has its Rhode's Scholars among other things. I don't support the far-left nature of the college, in its lack of acknowledging the suffering Christians as described in Pilgrim Church by Broadbent, but I do support the reality that scripture must have empirical truths in order for it to be useful to the body of believers in Jesus (Yeshua/Messiah......redeemer Savior).
Other more minor things that could influence my desire to write about this subject and need to reprove the lost "far-right," is the condition and influence of family and experience. 1. I have Armenian family members and grew up around their influence. King David was in Armenia for a while as the scripture states. The scripture is not a "toy." Middle East men as a whole have a certain personality type that is keen intellectually and spiritually. 2. My in-laws went to Israel on tour and I stayed in their house several years to help alleviate the fact that our family would have been homeless or I would have been a work-aholic to keep us off the street. I often hear of the stories and events that went on while they were in the Holy Land. Jesus (Yeshua) truly was Holy! 3. I personally know a few different folks who live in Israel, one whom I have known for several years. One family has five children and the husband has a humble behavior, not a womanizing behavior.
In the multitude of counselors there is safety. I believe this is true for anyone who would like to support the "stay-at-home" wife-life and the life of "patriarchy." I believe patriarchy is neutral as a whole and simply needs scripture evaluations to help make the ungodly man turn towards Holy God and repent of wickedness. Men (even secular men sing of this) are designed to LOVE GOD and WOMAN.
Act 13:50 But the Jews stirred up the devout and honourable women, and the chief men of the city, and raised persecution against Paul and Barnabas, and expelled them out of their coasts. (Honorable women were stirred up!)
Act 28:23 And when they had appointed him a day, there came many to him into his lodging; to whom he expounded and testified the kingdom of God, persuading them concerning Jesus, both out of the law of Moses, and out of the prophets, from morning till evening. (Three resources were used to explain the Kingdom in this verse : Law, Prophets AND Gospel) Debi Pearl RARELY uses the actual gospel to back up her claims behind what it means to be "submissive" and she RARELY looks at the full context of the LAW. Hence the kingdom explained by this author is a man-made-self-driven kingdom, NOT the GODLY kingdom! Because of this "effect" make sure to listen to more than what Debi says about marriage and more than what I am writing about Marriage as it is supposed to be in the Kingdom! Study the LAW, the PROPHETS and the GOSPEL REGULARLY! ***MOSES IS MENTIONED MORE OFTEN IN THE NEW TESTAMENT THAN ANY OTHER OLD TESTAMENT FIGURE***
Here is a little summary of the good and bad a person may glean from each chapter written by Debi Pearl. They say in some books, "Eat the meat, and spit out the bone." The book may be "used," but beware of the use of words and judgments used by this couple. For example, look up the various bible verses and incorporate them into your heart whether it is in KJV or in the original Hebrew scripture but drop off the ideas about a woman causing unruly behaviour in her spouse out the window. I have seen many far-fetched fault findings by this couple. Yes, they did do a good job at exposing the wicked pedophile, but they failed in explaining the issues behind their own unruly womanizing behavior (womanizing is corrupt according to the LAWs of the bible).
1. God's Gift.
-> It is OK to not say negative things about husband.
->It is NOT OK to say negative things about man who is NOT husband. Jezabel didn't like "simple man" Naboth a man NOT her husband. The vicious "feminism" spirit in the home and abroad creates a cloud of darkness in the soul.
2. A Merry Heart
->It is OK to have a merry heart in various clothing choices. Definitely pick up a hymn book and be content with singing praises to the LORD even if your husband can't afford a radio or there is conviction to remain away from "the world."
->It is NOT OK to assume the wife is responsible for a man's sanctification (this isn't in the bible except for the spouse who believes to sanctify). Sarah did not sanctify Abraham, so why expect any more from women of today!
->A husband needs truth and holiness (first five books need to be in the heart of "man" as a source of truth) more than fake cheesy smiled woman and "Instagram" looks. Fake women who are married to men cheat too! The stats are in, if 20% of men cheat on their wives, 18% of women cheat on their husbands!
3. Thankful Spirit
->It is OK to be thankful for husband presence
->It is NOT OK to assume that a woman needs her man "present" to feel sanctified and the ultimate reason to be thankful. It is a "way" to be thankful, but it is not the ultimate. What if the husband simply found himself "disabled." Debi never mentions disabled men in her book......go figure. If the husband is disabled, be thankful for the presence of JESUS to HEAL that man.
4. Thanksgiving produces Joy
->It is OK to experience "fun" as in the song-of-solomon kind of way. It is OK to be thankful for that special time.
->It is NOT OK to assume men with low-libido are because of the wife....not truth..... men with low libido were forced around in the trail-of-tears, Holocaust, persecutions, stress, dealing with the "feminist" women at the workplace and so forth.
->It is NOT OK to be thankful for your husband's good Libido while your neighbor suffers.....in a concentration camp. Maybe that other woman is married to a man who came out of a single parent home and has to work twice as hard to make his life work properly!
5. The Gift of Wisdom
->It is OK to get Wisdom. Sometimes it comes from a church group. Sometimes it comes from a college. Sometimes it comes from experience. Sometimes it comes from scripture and holy resources.
->It isn't OK to assume the husband fulfills all wisdom in life and in the wife!
6. The beginning of wisdom
->It is OK to listen to words of a husband in distress.
->It is NOT OK to assume every "crazy lady" is a hyper inflated spiritual nut-case. Some women are there to become "judges" if you will.....Education and knowledge of God's law is a part of "spirituality." Judge Judy....well her "crazy" family was sent to a concentration camp before she arrived on the American shore. That one black woman with 8 children, her crazy behaviour and drinking from white man water fountain......hmmmm. Gain wisdom from that.....when it comes to assuming all things "crazy" are the way they are. Rosa Parks.....she was considered "crazy."
7. Wisdom while hope.
->It is OK to stay with husband while he is doing "worldly things."
->It is not OK to assume we should continue to "embrace" the worldly. Holiness is the ultimate fulfillment of the scripture. (2Jn_1:6 And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it.) The "good guys" fulfill the commandments as written in Revelation......not the TV slobs. TV is a tool by the way.....
->It is not OK to "mock" the women in workforce who do simple odd jobs and dress simple. These women are married. These women want to pay off their OWN debts and faults. Some women NEED a little adult interaction (I'm sure DEBI had a lot of adult interactions with running a very busy ministry!) to keep sane! Some inspire our community to do better (in our local area an un-wed single girl with cancer was able to share gospel with many people before she died and said that being "born again" was the best hope in her life. She worked in the workforce and wore simple clothes. There was also a married music teacher who passed away from cancer, she inspired many people in many ways by her kindness and good heart. She was well loved)
8. Wisdom to understand you man
->It is OK to understand types of men in 3 types of ways.
-> IT is NOT OK to assume only Godly men are married and free from disability and trials. Some wives cheat on husband so that changes a man's heart! Pain is genderless! Some men are NEVER married (Ethiopian eunuch), and still feel the heartache of dealing with job stress and rejection.
9. Finding your life in his
->It is OK to listen to spouse (male or female balance is key).
->It is NOT OK to assume every desire in the husband is a "good" thing. Some wicked men desire to murder wife and sisters of the wife! (Check out indigenous people history). Some wicked men desire to murder people of minority heritage! These men want to work for "Hitler" or "ISIS" or "Abortion clinics"! YIKES!
10. Reactions define you
->It is good to think about how we "think" on a regular basis. Meditation on ALL of the scripture helps refine our character to be more pleasing to the Heavenly Father.
->It is NOT OK to assume whenever a woman "knows" something her husband doesn't know that she is overstepping her boundary line. If he did poorly on a math-test and was a failure at physics, while she was a genius, then SHE knows things about that particular subject and it wouldn't be supper wise to go to husband about that matter. Maybe he has strengths to program a computer and keep at it until it is completed, but she knows she can only "solve" problems in this and that way but simply cannot keep at it until resolved. Obedience is "dependent" on the situation at hand. Re-read the book of Esther. She had KNOWLEDGE that she was going to get murdered by wicked Haman! Her obedience to God came before her reverence towards spouse.
11. The Nature of Man and Woman
->Aggressive yes true. They have strength. But they have different "levels" of strength. Some men are more masculine and aggressive. Some men are more "wisdom" seeking and looking for something higher than this world. Some men are like Jacob and dwell in tents rather than loud-outdoors types.
->Having testosterone doesn't automatically make a man "godly." I simply cannot seem to find that anywhere in the bible! Esau had plenty of testosterone. Saul was aggressive for a while.....wasn't he!?? Men who find themselves hammered by false religions (Muslim for example) seem to have a lot of aggression, but no sense of direction towards godly living!
-> Because of Eve's easily being led-astray.....should we be concerned when Eve found herself "married" to a sex-trafficker? Much sex-trafficking violence comes out of environments where women are not allowed to "vote" or to "read" so to speak?! Don't assume "thinking" and "reading" and "writing" are bad for a woman. Else we will have to fall for every single "false prophet"! I don't believe Sojourner Truth was easily deceived when she saw her children taken away! She knew the source of truth.....the bible!
12. By Divine Appointment
-> The dud, may have the ability to dance and sing. To sway audience to do this and that in a magic show. The dud, may desire to have more than one wife. The man may only work at wal-mart as a cashier. Most loving and kind relationships are not punishment. Even if the man does things that are not "supper fancy," he can still sway women(plural) around.
->I sure hope she doesn't mean that the house must always look good to the "white" woman's standards. What if the house is made of "Straw"? Or a camper. Or a TENT in the wilderness? An apartment in a busy city? A refugee status? The divine appointment of housewife, doesn't always mean "ministry" ownership and "ministry worker" are the only valuable people and places to live.
13. The Great Mystery
->Reverence is a good thing.....until the king is found to have been a fraud. He has a character flaw of some sort. I sure hope a woman isn't reverencing a man who has a severe character flaw of racism or she is encouraging him in this evil behavior! Oh the homes with many different nationalities under one roof!
->Reverence is a great honour. I would hope the reverence is BASED upon the character traits of Christ that should come out of the man through prayer and fasting! Not on worldly fleshly desires!
14. King and Kingdoms
->If he is a man of Christ and his kingdom there will be three things upon which he relies: law, prophets and gospel. Else it is the man-made kingdom of despair, selfish-pride and heartache. The man will be miserable even in the kingdom "he wants" for himself.
->Some men did not have a father in the home, so they do not and will not function as a leader in their home. Many years and NO effort to rule appropriately.
->When the father doesn't play the role of "leader" the wife is left to allow her sons to find a "better" leader for the home. Hopefully she will simply go directly to Christ. A man from a different home. (Debi doesn't know this because she doesn't see the effects or was never actually married to the man of a single parent family). Maybe the racism issues created this effect. No mention of this by Debi ;( Only assumptions about why families struggle.
-> Part 2 coming soon.
As a reminder, the concepts of "fixing" homes without understanding things from many different angles can lead men astray and to do wicked things against innocent human life!@!
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