this is a copy from a forum on which a question was asked, is it ok for a woman to choose to remain single for the rest of her life?
Rev_14:4 These are they which were not defiled with women; for they
are virgins. These are they which follow the Lamb whithersoever he
goeth. These were redeemed from among men, being the firstfruits unto
God and to the Lamb.
Single people for God are the first fruits as the verse above
explains. It would be a blessing to be single in our world today. The
culture of America is confused about Godliness in so many ways. The
culture of America thinks that Godliness is something that can be voted
in to office or presented in a religious institutional way.
There is a wonderful book for single ladies by Helen Andelin. I have
not read it, but I am sure it is wonderful. “Before you meet prince
charming” is also another good work although she addresses hope for a
possible suitor (which in reality may never come, yet joy can still
exist). “every woman’s battle” is a pretty good book too……but the bible
is the best.
I feel like after I started my relationship with my husband verbal
abuse and psychological conniptions (due to feminism and scorn in his
family) started increasing dramatically despite the fact that we grew up
in similar area and with somewhat similar background. I thought I
would be single for the rest of my life but didn’t realize how important
modest dress was to keep me from harm in relationship. I also didn’t
realize how important it was for my family to help me decide character
in men. My problems with anger towards others especially in protection
of my wonderful children showed up too as I felt manipulated to put my
children in front of TV set rather than having them be godly…..God has
allowed me to find healing for my soul in this situation, but I still
have to face forgiveness.
As a single woman there is the “busy body” and there is the godly
woman. I would say if you are single and working in a sunday school
while still attending to activities in a casino, alcohol addictions,
making a joke about homosexual behaviors, gathering material possessions
and such, as biblical ordinances never encouraged such behavior, there
may be some judgment heading your way. But if you are single, a student
of God’s word and scripture, visiting widows and orphans with joy in
your spirit, you will be blessed beyond measure.
Now she that is a widow [or a single woman] indeed, and desolate,
trusteth in God, and continueth in supplications and prayers night and
day. But she that liveth in pleasure is dead while she liveth.
It is a blessing to be a single Christian woman because you can
easily and freely minister to Muslims and wear a head covering without
belittling by men of Western culture. Christ speaks about not judging
man by outward appearance but by inward appearance…. You can also
easily reach out to women who are in a boyfriend-girlfriend mess and are
confused about how to raise children in a such a hard situation. You
can learn the biblical calendar and not get berated for refusing to
celebrate XYZ holiday. I hope you find strength and God’s love in
whatever situation you are in. Like I said before, you can have
possibly MORE joy being single in this world than being married.
Eternity is forever. This world is temporary.
A friend of mine thought she was to remain single for life, but God
called a man in to her life. She now enjoys being a mother of children.
However, when she got married, she found she did have problems in her
flesh even though she followed the pattern of biblical relation before