Topics that may be different among family and friends....

Firstborn and family raising methods, whom to trust for religious or spiritual guidance, how a person feels about taxation (unless it becomes burden on poor or excluded members and money is used for obscene practices), sexuality issues (excluding those who work in medical aspects of this issue and severe abuse cases), times, events, seasons/seasonal practices, food related choice vs. allergy, business related, employment conditions, vows, God(perspective on how to approach/trust based upon a method of worship and fellowship), beliefs about first five books of the bible (creation issues/legalism issues/connections to remaining bible/connections to all of human race via babel), religious symbolism, prayers, love towards other people(outside of a marriage), brotherhood conditions(empathetic feelings towards those suffering), treatment of the poor, treatment of minorities/non-minorities, marriage choice and attendance(some may feel certain marriages are not safe or good), widowhood and single person issues, divorce choices (excluding those who maintain severe abuse generating relationships), family connections (close or far, assist the weak or not?), educational choices(pay big money, limit/increase/adjust what a person knows or find other means to gain education), covenant/permanent beliefs, years/months/days for rest and/or assistance, court and judicial issues, injuries/disabilities, damages, property conditions (indigenous, inherited and immigrant), culture related issues, criminal behavior in general vs. religious based crimes, punishment for crimes, foreseeing and knowing things (educational, scientific or supernatural), idolatry/entertainment issues, gender roles (employment related, excluding serving/overcome burden of the suffering spouse or loved ones), agriculture/food/animal treatment, clothing choices, traditions of value and no value, giving of money, religious places and objects (attend those places or not), what it means to give of one's time and energy to another and what is qualified as good or poor respect in sacrifice, what it means to be pure and impure in behavior and health practices, methods of handling illnesses (nature or supernatural assistance, man-made assistance), leaders (local, national, international, based on heritage/nationality of origin), survival and wilderness perspectives, clean and unclean appearances, conditions of "wars" "disease" "persecution" or "famine."

Just because each family member has different perspectives and choices on these topics, doesn't mean that they are wrong or need to be abandoned for their beliefs (excluding those who push abusive or severely disrespectful tendencies in these areas. If someone is pushing, advancing or hiding abusive practices, warn them/others about that), its just that each person has a given gift in each area of knowing things that benefit others in each topic.  Each person can feel encouraged, and is meant to feel loved and supported despite differing beliefs about these topics.

Whether we like to admit it or not, each member in a family and even into deep friendships (outside of marriage included), feels various levels of compassion and desire to see success in others.  Character flaws are easily "determined" by family members, but that doesn't mean every thing is "corrupt" in the person.  Each person has a process of growing, changing and improving.

It is NOT the job of one certain family member to make EVERY ONE in the ENTIRE family happy, or to make EVERY ONE function appropriately.  It isn't realistic.  (Perhaps even Dr. Phil would attest to that..... ;)  Sometimes there are ingrained prejudices, addictions, forgiveness and other issues that need to be weeded out for proper functioning.  A scorner and gossip always remains a burden.  Socially, most people can only handle a few close friendships and relationships and remain accountable to them as a whole.  Older may assist the younger folks, but really, it will depend on the physical and spiritual conditions of the older folks in a family.

The key thing, is to THINK OF OTHERS.  Don't "control" other's way of doing things.....simply THINK OF OTHERS.t build the foundation on "worry" and/or "scorn"..... it is another way to spell "failure"

Don't build the foundation on "worry" and/or "scorn"..... it is another way to spell "failure"

Worry ->Left ;Scorn->Right

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