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Wednesday, January 17, 2018

-Do not support- vs. -support- types of marriage and conditions.....

Conditions and level of support or no support may vary based on knowledge of circumstance, knowledge of the bible, general knowledge and statistics and experiences and other things like repentance or life change, but in general this is an overview.  This list may be considered with discussion with children who need to know these things, those considering marriage or with others about your beliefs.....

Recall that Jesus said that people would do this (get into corrupt marriage and practice) in the end-times......like in the days of Noah and Lot.  "Simple concerning evil doesn’t mean someone does not know what evil is and that evil exists, but rather that they are unmixed with and harmless regarding the details of that evil."blog.titus2.com

Note: Marriage conditions may have a tendency to look like this.  Also note that Jesus' own ancestry did NOT come from perfect conditions!  Consider the "Ethiopian eunuch" if marriage conditions are not safe for a "born again" believer.

Furthermore, a person SHOULD support a person who is a victim in one of these marriages.  They were not protected enough, wise enough or did not repent.  A person should not "discriminate" based on marital status as a whole, like business or employment unless deemed necessary for protection for vulnerable people.

Even this basic video can help give some ideas (can work both ways.....woman check man behavior too):



Do NOT support:
(A bible based believer would not support these types of marriage or marriage conditions)

Consider reading this article to get an understanding about why LOVE does not involve FORCE: http://www.hcn.org/articles/tribal-affairs-why-native-american-women-still-have-the-highest-rates-of-rape-and-assault

-Terror or forced marriage
-Child under 15 marriage (the child cannot drive him or her self to a doctor so to speak).  Some marriages have "worked" at such a young age but they were always difficult.
-Gay or same-sex marriage (has many similar characteristics and behaviour to infidelity marriages).  Sexuality practices are "stolen" from what Adam and Eve were given to do.
-One-man-one-woman by force (other wives were murdered)
-incest marriages (5 generations difference, 7 generations or more difference is better)
-one or both spouse has heavy anger, alcohol, violence, crime, laziness/screen addictions, abortions etc.
-infidelity marriage (they are the ones who practiced the infidelity)
-pornography addictions in one or both spouses
-won't accept homebirth or nicu practices as needed or desired in agreement when dealing with maternity conditions
-anything opposed to God's law with Christ's redemption (like the way animals are treated, the way women conduct their life etc)
-heavy swinging or infidelity practice.  Possibility for the poly practice and not admit it. (woman at the well)
-strained extreme religious difference
-professionals seducing children online or off-line types of behavior
-misogyny, misandry, major womanizing or feminist behaviour
-financial abuse.  Marry for the spouse's money or talent with exceptions where this occurs.
-Disability marriage with no "maternity" conditions safety.
-Extreme IQ differences (IVY League married a person with 8th grade education would be OK as many 8th grade educated people can easily read adult level books and materials, but an IVY league educated person with a person who cannot and will not spell past the 5th grade level would not be OK)
-FGM marriage.  Female Genital Mutilation marriage.  Forget it.  Such people are not "religious" but are human-rights violators.
-a person is really supportive of "Fifty Shades of Gray" and other violation of God's laws types of entertainment.....
-something creepily "robotic"........humanoid nature of some sort.

Possibility TO support:

(A bible based believer would possibly support these types of marriage or marriage conditions)


-Disabled marriage with safety in maternity conditions.
-no marriage license payment (sometimes they may call this common-law marriage).  Essentially no "professional" and paid paper-document is used to identify the marriage.  Celebrations may still occur.
-woman decided to marry her rapist. (ie. a woman was violated at a college party.  That woman later meets this man at a workplace and he repented of his actions.)
-similar religious beliefs (except terror based religious beliefs).  It would be ok to support two religious beliefs that support the first -five books of the bible-, but use caution with "Christian" denominations that disagree with the first-five books of the bible- as truth.
-age gap (like over 10 year age difference) if youngest is above age 18.
-younger man and older woman (if older woman is not twice his age or in violation of the things above "do not support")
-self-control marriage (major no touch until wedding day)
-a couple doesn't want to go to prom but wants to get married instead.  Yes, they may be under age 18, but if they can -DRIVE- themselves to the doctor or to healthcare resources and to their job then they are mature enough to make their own "marriage" decisions too.
-"God Planned" marriage (Isaac and Rebekah type of thing) Man gets a vision and woman gets an "answer" by vision.
-Remarriage after repentance or freedom from above "do not support" conditions.
-actors and actresses getting married after pretending in a scene
-oooops we messed-up marriage if not in "do not support" conditions.
-polygny if not in above "do not support" conditions.  Example: a man lost his first wife by separation and never really fully divorced.  That man married another wife without official paper-documentation.  Instead of infidelity conditions a man agrees with his first wife to take in another "wife" into the home and the first wife is ok with it.  (this condition MUST NOT have misogyny in it to work in a godly sort of way).
-Depression, anxiety etc in a spouse.  A person may still get married if they have those types of conditions and maintain a safe and healthy marriage.  Social behaviors may need to be more simplistic.
-professional who marries a client if timing is not in violation to getting work done in appropriate manner (ie. waitress married a regular visitor)
-Former spouse died.  For obvious reasons it is ok to marry again.
-A person once "saw" a -naked person- on a tv screen, magazine, historical record or medical diagnosis book or saw something like strippers in a movie.  Once or twice, here or there.  The person "repented" of watching that or never looked at it as a "true,""idolized" or "addicted to" that type of thing.  Some scenes may simply be "ignored" or passed over and the story would still make "sense."  (some extreme far-right believe in a ruined child if the child saw a "Disney" movie at a public school, or two donkeys doing something in the field...........hmph)
-a person was once violated, put into a concentration camp, falsely imprisoned or enslaved.  These people may get married but may have problems from time to time.  Depending on the severity or if there was extreme violation that needed counseling.
-Appropriate swinging handling (healthcare workers have to deal with people that have "attractions" from time to time) if the other spouse approves and knows about what is happening and honesty is revealed.  Read "emotional affair"


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