Many people fear biblical patriarchy. They fear it because it shows that humanity does indeed need to submit to a -creator-. A redeemer.
1. Focus on character. Before marriage. https://emotionalabusesurvivor.com/deal-breakers-advice-to-unmarried-women-and-daughters/. This website has some advice on how to check character, but that doesn't guarantee the woman understand's forgiveness aspect which must ALWAYS happen for a relationship to function. It is simply a way to check before things get harder. (I don't agree with everything in the website, but I do agree to check character)
2. Learn how to practice forgiveness. Created To Be His Helpmeet . Note: some people who read this book do practice polygyny, so if you are afraid of that option in -Patriarchy- you may want to research -biblical polygny- because sometimes it does happen even in godly families. It is also OK to practice Sabbath day things, unlike the book indicates.
3. Stand your ground. Know more things about nature, history, culture and so forth that build upon good foundation. If you have minority status, know who you are as a person.
4. Know that the principle of Christianity is that Christ loved the church, so husband gave himself for his wife. Pray those character traits into your husband.
5. It is ok TO forgive. Perhaps there was something wrong with your relationship with your spouse. You do not have to break apart a home just because other women "couldn't put up with" the issues you have had to deal with as a woman. No person is 100% perfect until they return to the Savior.
6. Meditate on psalms and proverbs. Knowing the scripture gives you strength.
7. Continue to wear modest dresses, be a homemaker, practice kindness instead of nagging and so forth.
8. Bravely practice wearing modest clothing. Don't masculinize yourself, but do wear godly feminine appearal. If possible, it is ok to wear a head scarf.
9. Study God's laws. The more you know out of the first five books of the bible and the culture practice behind it, the more likely you will see why patriarchy was used as a means of redemption from scripture. Patriarchy is not the redemption, but it is a means.
10. Eliminate the desire to scorn women who were in a bad relationship or simply gave up on "godly patriarchy" marriages. Doing so, makes other women think that patriarchy is bad news for women, when it actually is a blessing. Be aware that there are FALSE abuse websites out there......run by women: False abuse from Feminists
11. Study on how to become a godly homemaker. The more you know and desire to learn, the more likely you will be successful. http://www.womensetapart.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/Secrets-of-Fascinating-womanhood.pdf or another resource: http://www.aboverubies.org/
12. Study Tribal wisdom and take care of those in need, without payment of money.
13. Learn survival skills and ways to manage life in difficult times. Perhaps ways you may save money by living with others for a time. (We are actually not meant to live alone as a couple)
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