Attraction is -normal-.....Lust is not -good-....

There are many stories in the bible where -attraction- occurred.  Someone saw someone else in their physical appearance and approved of how -God- created that man or women.  The bible mentions that Joseph, Esther were handsome or beautiful.  The bible mentions that Jezabel made her self -lust-filled- and beautiful Tamar was -raped- by a lust-filled man.

Being physically fit and having an attractive nature is NOT a bad thing.  Many people "like" Hollywood, not because of the nature of "lust" issues, "political correct folly" and "relationship" problems, but because of the -attractive- people that make big money and fill up the screens with talent.

Some of the people in Hollywood, clearly are just there to make big money and are full of themselves,  some have become dangerous victimizers, but some of the people actually have talent and really do think of others more than them selves (as in healthcare, so in Hollywood and vice versa).  It just depends on whom a person notices and how they treat others despite their qualities in being physically attractive.

So when teaching children about how to control passions and how to "stay safe" on the internet and other places consider the reality that there are those out there who "prey" on Children's naivety to their ability to be -attractive- or admire others who are -attractive-.

A person may be attracted to someone who is NOT a christian (or a shaky type of Christian) or acknowledge the bible.  This doesn't mean that the people are bad for getting into Christian beliefs or vice versa because attractions occur, rather it means the CHRISTIAN should KNOW the scripture well enough to know how to handle such conditions, while the non-Christian will simply believe that all lust is good, all the time.  It is BETTER to trust the LORD (when it comes to relationships.....even dreams can reveal things) than to put confidence in ourselves.

The best way to follow through on good relationships is serving others......the "Sunshine" is there......but in reality the concern for others is better for the soul.  Sometimes a person may not feel comfortable with another person just because of -attraction- (physical outward appearances).......rather character is what makes a person comfortable in relationship.

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This is for information. I too do not allow or want to encourage ANY social media use until child is practically 21 years old...... really with the "nasty stuff" that can come through the "pipes."

I would love for every child to know how to live like the classical days.......the days before every man even owned a horse I suppose. But then again, even in those days they had some nasty rituals that preyed on children too.

Best to just TALK with the children about these things (biblical and practically). Those prepared are usually spared.

Link below for a positive "talking" book. Believe me your child's school WILL NOT cover all the safety issues that need to be covered, and peers will only JOKE about those things.

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The following article is verbally -graphic-.  Be warned that the internet is not all -safe- as it appears outwardly.  Playing with a child's mind is JUST as detrimental to health as is giving the child STD!

https://medium.com/@anastasiabasilcunningham/porn-is-not-the-worst-thing-on-musical-ly-5df07ab842af

https://www.intoxicatedonlife.com/store/

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For girls: encourage modesty to help discourage unwanted attention and lust-filled thoughts from men.  Encourage knowledge, wisdom and character as being superior resources than physical appearances.

For boys: encourage wisdom, knowledge, strength and character in various ways that benefit humanity with things other than entertainment if at all possible.  Encourage boys to become men in a godly way and be appealing to cherishing his future spouse.

A little "entertainment" is not bad, IF it is in self-control.  Being attracted to someone whom a person is NOT married to is NOT abnormal and does occur.  When it is filled with ungodly stuff and turns into lust (like things that are opposed to God's laws) then it is out of control.  Just keep things in control and there are no problems.

Note: Many popular televangelists have had infidelity problems.  The reason?  They didn't seek counsel from the LORD in how to handle their own ability to get tempted by "lust."  Lust is very powerful!  Don't let it consume.

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