Man - Problem vs. OK for relationship....

I have worked at a bank, waitress, healthcare, math class with various men, marriage (husband who is NOT 100% white-skin), visited and talked with men from various religions and faiths (Christian and non-Christian, Jewish and non-Jewish), talked with the men online and off-line, talked with other women in successful vs. non-successful relationship, read various things, looked at statistics about this and that etc etc.  Now at the age of 33, I believe I understand what types of men will have issues and what types of men will be OK for relationship.  I don't know all that there is to know about what it means to be THE ONE, as only the bible and wisdom can declare that, but I do know the various signs about what to watch out for.

For general understanding, know that the author of this blog has a more LIBERTARIAN(I don't know if I have dark-skin ancestry??) or practical CONSERVATIVE view of the bible.  It IS available to the POOR, so GOD wants people to be HAPPY and to know his ways.

Anyone can change their life around and make it right (repent as Nineveh did in book of Jonah) in the EYES of the CREATOR and REDEEMER.....even if the past was quite bad morally.  However, in severe cases there may be an instance where a marriage or relationship with another person on this earth never takes place.

If a person is reading this article and already in a "sour" relationship, don't give up on it unless there is severe abuse.

A man that may have a problem in the relationship:

-Sexual impurity (womanizing) including infidelity and pornography

-Abortion practice (including use of pills or other hidden means) and support for it (except for the danger in the life of the mother).

-Clings to his own mother and other female family members.  Has a sort of cult-like beliefs about family admiration.  Believes ONLY his family is right about all things related to "HOLY" life.

-Feminized - non-masculine (It is OK to cook and clean or even to have a softer personality and voice, but it is NOT OK to act like the seductress, the gossiper, the angry woman etc)

-Upset about -anything- written in the first 5 books of the bible.  He doesn't like "the law" of the bible or the account of Genesis.  He thinks "sodomy" is now allowed in God's way of living a HOLY life...... He has fabled ideas about NERO and what he did to Christians(research on NERO in raw-book account is available by the way).

-Psalm and Proverb issues (read through Psalms and Proverbs (does he get angry, does he mock, does he scorn etc.)  Use a KJV bible or original Hebrew will work fine.

-Outward appearance only matters.  The sport teams matter on the T-Shirt.  The women who wear or don't wear headscarves only matter in some way or another.

-Won't fast or give-up things in his life.  His car could be traded for a bike etc.  He could skip a few meals and save up for a mortgage.....
-major financial problems (specifically debt or gambling)

-Any sort of bondage (narcissism or other mental health issues....PTSD..., alcohol, drugs, eating disorder, screen addiction etc)

A man that may be OK in the relationship:

-Kind (and other fruits of the spirit)

-Already married (He succeeded in marriage with another woman)  (polygny was practiced by Early Christians....)

-Think of others (no extremist group, racist group etc.)

-Brotherly love (less likely to womanize and be a part of extremist groups on far-left or far-right.  Jesus himself had platonic brotherly-love relationships....disciples, for example)

-Not insane/ crazy (however, some men can become "ill" for no apparent reason or some outward force anytime in the marriage so be ready to pray for healing)

-Owns his own place (lives on his own without dependence upon family.....needs a home following education completion) --Why? Biologically it is hard in the "bedroom" activity without comfortable living arrangement.

-Psalm and Proverbs benefits (godly, faithful, giving to others etc)

-A Jack of many trades.

This is a secular video....but it illustrates that there is a "bad guy" and a "good guy"

This same thing can apply to Woman too!  A woman should qualify as a decent and approachable person as a whole.  She doesn't need to live in her own place however (as some single women are NOT simple, but have a greedy heart)

NOTE: A person with a disability does NOT mean that the relationship will not work.  Meet Nick and Joni

For more information on relationship read THIS ARTICLE

or Ways a Maiden may Keep Busy

Try reading: Preparing to Be His Helpmeet (though it does have a over-emphasis on "his" needs rather than the needs that GOD wants to give to BOTH as a couple...the ministry has also had negative vibes from time to time.  I personally believe GOD WILL lead a man first and woman to pursue a relationship (example Isaac and Rebekah))

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