What is Holy Marriage?

1. Institutionalizing something does not make it Holy.  Do research about "forced" one-man/one-woman marriages in history.  Ahab and Jezebel were in a one-man/one-woman marriage in the bible but they were a wicked couple.

2. If Jesus is in your marriage/relationships then you would have to understand that Jesus loved two women and Lazarus too.  All without breaking "Torah."

3. If Jesus is in your marriage/relationships you would have to understand that he confronted the unbelief in Capernea....it was worse than Sodom and Gommorah.

4. Some people love Jesus more than their spouse.  And that doesn't mean the marriage needs to suffer or end.

5. Some people love other people more than their spouse.  And that doesn't mean the marriage needs to suffer or end. (aka. many infidelity problems are resolved by choosing to allow their spouse FREEDOM in understanding of love.  Some people do get away from institutionalization and into things like polygyny.  or some spouses are not aware of injustice outside of the marriage which needs to be resolved.)

6. Marriage is not a place to solve "sin issues."  It can reveal the issues.  It can bring to light the things of humanity dark past. (ie. racism issues, domestic violence issues, addictions etc.)

7. Christianity is more than marriage conditions and status.  It is willingness to go the extra mile.

8. Children are better off following JEsus as a whole than following their parents marriage/relationship status and beliefs.  His character and example serve the child better than parental confusions.

9. A covenant marriage means that separation could occur if there are hidden issues in the heart of one of the spouse.  The grace and goodness of God are what brings separated spouses back together, not the "laws" and regulations of the world-system.

10.  Meditation on the scripture WILL help make your marriage HOLY.  Not the other way around (forcing the relationship while ignoring the scripture).  It will help make the possibility for other marriages to succeed if your current spouse dies.

11. Children don't need to suffer your anger if you are living in a strained relationship.  They are not the ones who need to solve relationship problems that you have.

In summary: A Holy Marriage is willingness to OBEY the WORD in regards to Marriage.  TRUST and FAITH are key elements and fruits because of this determination.