Values before marriage are more important than "virginity"......

Instead of thinking that being "virgins" at marriage makes a person complete, a person needs needs needs to think SCRIPTURE WISE.  BE WISE according to what the BIBLE ACTUALLY SAYS!

Yes, Jesus clearly said to the woman caught in adultery to "sin no more" (John 8:11).  What was the woman's sin?  Was she married to another man and committing an act of infidelity?  Was she a "prostitute"?  Was she Bathsheba and purposefully standing up on housetops without a "top" on?  Was a she like the woman who had five husband's (obviously the woman at the well was not a virgin each time she was married again) and kept picking up new men?  What ever the case happened to be, SHE HAD SIN IN HER HEART.  

Maybe that particular woman caught in adultery was a VIRGIN on her wedding night!  Gasp!  A virgin can still have adultery problems?  Even LGBT types of adultery problems?  YES!  In fact, up to 20% of men AND women have infidelity problems! Virgin on wedding not or not! Yikes!

All in all, it is NOT a bad thing to be a "virgin" on wedding night.  It is also not a bad thing to decide to "stop sinning" and delay marriage until the values match.  I am NOT the one to judge on each person's situation.

This is a FACT.  Being a virgin on wedding night, for both or either men OR women will not......I repeat.....WILL NOT prevent sin problems in the children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren!  YIKES.  All that work......for nothing!  

Being "born again" is the KEY thing! For example, Grandmother had some children. One child is a woman but is very masculine and unmarried, another is divorced and got-remarried-by-sleeping-with the woman, another had three or four pregnancy out of wedlock and lived off of govt' for many years. The grandchildren.....gets worse. One is in prison for showing children pornography, one had an infidelity problem and died (God judged him), another has domestic-verbal-abuse problems, another one raped a woman....... so on and so forth.... Yes, being a virgin on wedding night is a gift.....but beware of thinking too highly of this gift.

I agree with what Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery, "sin no more"....... we don't know the circumstances for the adultery situation, but each situation is different for each woman and virginity in and of itself won't protect a couple from sin (like infidelity). Some people consider not-kissing a good thing. Some even go as far as no-touching at all. But waiting to do the touching and things before values are ensured and checked is a GOOD IDEA to prevent awkward social problems.

Sometimes people don't acknowledge this issue but there ARE kissing cousins out there. No pun intended but any gender may practice these things..... And they are still there, to this day.......some people STILL have "levant" cousins......1st, 2nd, 3rd cousins etc etc. Which Jesus CLEARLY had "levant cousins" (starting at 1 minute)...... some people don't know their full Genetic history (trace to 10%??), but believe me, Jewish people are there on planet earth (sorry hitler.....you lost).

Anyway, in summary, I agree with people who are wise and it is Better to think BIBLICAL about these sorts of things. Women HAVE been raped like Dinah and Tamar in the bible. Men have been pulled around by "potiphar's wife" and so forth (I heard of a guy who was a teenager who was "raped/pressured" by an older woman). So it is MORE VALUABLE to ensure that VALUES match before tieing the knot. Even though people tie-the-knot.....doesn't prevent sin issues from creeping in. Some people WILL either embrace their sin, or just practice swinging and things of that sort (believe me, I've worked in healthcare from various disability conditions and walks of life and have seen and heard all sorts of stuff). Its called nature and human condition.

Just as a side note........a LOT of exposure to Pornography DAMAGES relationship bonds. Yes, healthcare workers have seen things. Yes, people have worked at swimming pools and other places with less modesty, but a LOT of exposure to Pornography creates a "bondage" to "fantasy" and not to a real person. It is ok to be beautiful, in fact it is very good, but it is NOT ok to be in bondage and addicted. I would NEVER encourage a relationship to continue if I knew that this is a problem for one of the couples.

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